There’s nothing quite like watching a woman rise in strength, embrace who she is and walk in confidence. I believe this happens when a woman has a deep inner knowing of who she is as a child of God and how greatly loved she is. As an avid researcher of and proponent for women becoming their best selves,
I’ve noticed some common behaviors that confident women exhibit, which I’ll explain in just a minute, but before I do I need you to know that these traits are firmly rooted in a deep relationship of intimacy with our source and center for all things. This has to be our foundation.
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If we want to be confident women we have to know one thing first about all else: I am who God says I am and that is enough.
Enough. Right now. As is. Not when I lose the weight, get the job, get the man, have the perfect __________, etc. God loves you right now as is and his love is what will transform you. We don’t earn our love and it isn’t conditional.
We can rest when we live in this place and do things FROM love not FOR love. There is a huge difference when we live in the from instead of the for.
So without further ado here are 5 things confident women do—>challenge–>take just one of these and put them into play this week and see how things change.
Come back and let me know what you experience and how it goes!
I think women in general get giving well but receiving is another matter entirely. We believe self-deprecation, negative self-talk or minimizing when someone complements us is humility but it’s actually not. It’s false humility. Confident women are able to say thank you and receive well with out getting a big head. They know that it all comes from God and they are able to give him glory without bashing themselves in the process.
Many times our posture and body language reflects what we believe about ourselves. Confident women carry themselves like the queens that they are. So when you walk into any room, shoulders back, head up and eyes straight ahead. Make eye contact. No fidgeting, Confident women are at ease and comfortable in their own skin.
Us gals can really out of hand with this one. apologizing for everyone and everything. In our attempt to be empathetic, please, and save the day we don’t realize that we are actually creating a lot of doubt in our souls.
“Im sorry to bother you”
“Im sorry you didn’t like the restaurant”
“I’m sorry, let me get out of your way”
“I’m sorry but we need to talk”
It’s one thing to apologize when we mess up (and we should) but quite another to apologize for people and circumstances we had nothing to do with. The next time you need to get by someone in the aisle of the grocery store instead of saying “I’m sorry” just say “excuse me” instead.
When confident women set a boundary they do it neither to offend or please the other party. They do it for themselves and feel zero need to justify their decisions. They realize that NO is a complete sentence and are cool with that. Fear of what other people think or how other people will react does not rule their decision making process.
They don’t compete, compare, interrupt or one up other people. Instead the complement, listen and freely give encouragement. They realize there’s plenty of room at the table and if there’s not, they build a new table.
Remember, all of these are rooted in “I am who God says I am and that is enough”. When we know this in our gut then true confidence flows from a place of rest.
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>>Bonus tip: Confident women have zero guilt for investing in themselves and consider it a basic necessity not a luxury. They’re committed to a lifestyle of continual growth. You can do this too! I’m cheering you on!
Passion Is Everything,
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